When Does It Become *more* Than A Shut-out?

Hello, Obviously we all (as carers) need to take good care of ourselves. If not our reserves will be depleted quicky. And by no means should PTSD be an excuse for poor behavior on the part of the sufferer. But....when is it no longer a shut out, but a "I m gone"? Sisu :dontknow:
https://www.myptsd.com/c/threads/when-does-it-become-more-than-a-shut-out.4550/