Struggling With Possible Abuse Discovery

I m embarrassed to post this, but my husband will sometimes put me in chokeholds when I make a joke he doesn t like or when I push him away from grinding on me while making breakfast or something. He used to do it when I would act erratically from memories of past Abuse. Anyways, he doesn t do it with malice, he just does it to be funny or to calm me down. I really don t want any lectures or anything, but just wondering if this has happened to anyone else? We put just shake it off after it... Chokeholds
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