How Do You Balance Inner And External Life?

Hi, This is my first time posting on a forum like this. I have a history of emotional abuse by others, and have a history of varying levels of depression, and anxiety, Including major depression. My fiancé is emotionally abusive, and I m not sure of what action to take under the circumstances. She has no idea that she is doing it, and she is a victim of physical/emotional abuse herself. I know the common wisdom is that I have to take care of myself first, and if someone came to me with... Hello
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