Helping My Daughter?

Does anyone think it s possible, to change how we view ourselves by letting go (by decision) of what others have said (abuse etc), & concentrting on others good things said to & about us? I don t mean the process proper of practising, but making that initial decision. If you have done so, others have said it about family or toxic exes, how did you do it? Was it simply a choice? Were there steps? How did you deal with self doubt? I have a ttendency to take things to heart, albeit... Self Perception
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