Emptiness After "integrating" A Split

I m learning more and more each day that I may have to step away from my entire family through this process. As much as it hurts, I have to learn who I really am, and stop the cycle of being their puppet on a string. A very good friend/counselor who worked with me a lot after my abusive marriage told me tonight that, "When one person within a dysfunctional family gets better and tries to change their role within the family, the rest of the family works even harder to put them back in... Family
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